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Harris said that it is more appropriate and healthier in the long run to participate in "group dates" in order to truly understand the way a particular person interacts with others; in a group setting, a person is less likely to be able to maintain a façade.
Harris proposed a system of courtship that involved the parents of both parties to a greater degree than is usual in conventional dating.
In an interview with Family Christian Stores, Harris indicated that "people have taken the message of I Kissed Dating Goodbye and made it something legalistic – a set of rules.
That's something that's beyond my control and it's disappointing at times..." Christian psychologists Henry Cloud and John Townsend suggest that avoiding dating in order to avoid suffering, as Harris advises, causes those who do so to forgo opportunities to mature, especially through learning how to create healthy boundaries.
He also Skypes with fans and critics of the book.“My book hurt people. My thinking has changed since I wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I don’t agree with a lot of my own book.”Harris was married shortly after he wrote the book.
The focus on virginity, he says, changes the focus from “who am I in relationship to God who loves and relates to sinners?
I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a 1997 book by Joshua Harris.
The book focuses on Harris' disenchantment with the contemporary secular dating scene, and offers ideas for improvement, alternative dating/courting practices, and a view that singleness need not be a burden nor characterized by what Harris describes as "selfishness".
Author Christine Gardner, a professor at Gordon College, says teens at pro-abstinence rallies sometimes were led in chants of“sex is great!
” -- with a speaker adding that it’s only great within the bonds of marriage.