Christian thoughts on dating
If you find that you have answered “no” to one or more of these questions, do not allow yourself to be swallowed up in despair.
Rather, ask yourself: What is keeping me from changing my “no” to “yes” in each case? God has given you every resource you need to have the assurance of your salvation, to provide for yourself and for a family, to put sexual sin to death, and to develop gospel relationships in your local church.
I place this question on the list of considerations because God has designed the local church to be the place where our faith is grown, sustained, protected, and preserved (Heb -15; -24).
If you are detached from the local church, you will soon be spiritually adrift and taking your girlfriend with you.
But the fact of the matter is that if you can’t get married within the next year-and-a-half, you are in a precarious position: either your relationship grows and you both find yourselves without an appropriate outlet for your maturing affections, or your relationship sputters and stalls because there is no immediate hope for marriage.
courting debate has raged within the evangelical community.
I’ve seen far too many Christian men tow their girlfriend along in relational haze, neglecting to provide them with any certainty that their current dating excursion will eventually lead to marriage.
Men, when you indulge in this passive approach to dating, you will soon be guilty of defrauding your girlfriend.
So, somehow between 1998 when I got married and today, all sorts of weird things have happened.
And somehow dating, pursuing marriage has become really, really difficult. Two people would indicate interest in one another, and in some way you’d start as friends, and at some point you’d ask the awkward question, and you’d go on a date, and you’d realize you’d have to have that question, that conversation too, hey, are we dating now, that kind of stuff. Somewhere along the way and probably Josh Harris has something to do with this, with , somehow it became really, really complicated.