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I procrastinated starting out on my assignment for a week as I battled with the ego and the fear of looking desperate.
I’d had serious relationships in the past, and the main feedback my pastors had given me was not that I wasn’t ready for marriage, nor wouldn’t make a great wife, but that I simply didn’t know what I wanted.
Aware that e Harmony – the dating site known as most successful for marriages – has a 90-minute questionnaire, I started here.
At .99 for a one-month trial, I seriously hoped this was worth it.
By end of week two, I had 62 ‘reasonable matches’ (people who were more than a 60% match).
But this only happened because I extended the distance range to the whole of the US. With the men I did take a shine to, it felt like we had to take exams before we could actually obtain contact. Some of them may well have later fled to the Internet in the hope they’d find their wife: soft in character, tall, with model looks, joker, non-smoker, prays in tongues at least 45 minutes a day, preferably a virgin, never confronts but isn’t a pushover... I appreciate the need to have standards when it comes to finding a life partner, but not when we’re unwilling to look at ourselves, or the fear so clearly attached to so many requirements.
Over in London, it seemed my girls were having similar problems.
‘I wish I’d burnt my cash and made a video of it on Instagram instead of waste my time on e Harmony,’ shared one friend.
As my London girlfriends and I started trying out exclusively Christian dating sites, such as Christian Connection, Christian Cafe and Christian Crush, the line ‘Faces that only their mother would love’ was whispered among the three of us. While many Christians have found long-term love through Christian dating sites, I’ve also heard stories of the same Christian men existing on these sites for years. Online dating creates naturally (and thankfully) more options than our local town may provide, which can catalyse the desire to be fine-tuned and higher in goal-setting – and that’s where all this gets interesting.
But I was slightly disappointed with the options I was being given: too old, too young; too invested in believing in ‘the one’ rather than the best ones.
Too many were divorced and didn’t sound like they were healed from the last marriage.
According to Pew Research, one in five Americans aged 25–34 have used online dating, and it’s also popular with older singles.
The research also showed that 5% of Americans who are married or in a committed relationship said they had met their significant other online.