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Instead, they usually end up making mixed race people feel they're nothing more than fodder for a genetic guessing game of "what are you? "While many intend it as a compliment, when you really break it down, an exotic beauty is not the same as a true beauty.
Therefore, it is ultimately a discriminatory sentiment." In short, people who message mixed-race people might think they're complimenting them on how "exotic" they look.
But she also frequently interacts with white men who try to flatter her by saying they picked her profile specifically because they don't like to date white women.
Some users are upfront about their racial preferences on their profiles.
In a piece on Grindr racism, writer Anthony Berteaux wrote that many Grindr profiles in his area featured derogatory terms about race — for instance, referring to men of Indian or East Asian descent as "curry" and "rice." That type of racial fetishization applied doubly to people who identified as multiracial.
Many users speak of their ambiguous ethnicity being used as a pick up line, either through direct questioning or comments like, "You look so exotic." "I don't typically get messages that come off as flirtatious or fetishizing me right off the bat, but some people will message me being like 'What's your mix? It's a question many mixed race people are familiar with, a subtle code for "Why don't you look the way I think you should? Alyssa*, 25, a woman of Japanese and white heritage, used OKCupid before she got into a long-term relationship.
" To avoid dealing with that, some mixed race people put their "mix" right in their profiles, in hopes of fending off those questions. While on the website, she put her racial background on her profile.